Necessary life skills for oldies

Mariner has been confronted by old age. Check out a few thousand articles on YouTube (Junk University) to learn old folk skills from muscles to money to religion. If the reader isn’t a socially active person, it is easy to become TV-bound in a recliner. If the person is retired but has no significant, time-consuming hobby or cause, the brain gets lazy. Here’s mariner’s Junk University advice – the overall objective is stay linked to your immediate outside reality.

BODY

Five times each day for two minutes,stand erect and lock your knees. This gesture    improves posture and brain concentration. When you take your daily walk, don’t look down – keeps the balance function working and improves posture. Walking a half hour outside the house every day is a famous recommendation from everyone. Just being outside the house can be beneficial.

Always when picking up anything close to the floor, squat, don’t bend. This gesture strengthens and stretches the whole body and may be the secret to getting up from laying flat on the floor.

Squatting, lift something heavy from the floor to a table then put it back on the floor. Barbell weights are convenient but a tabletop sewing machine can work or two ten pound dumbells – anything heavy enough to be a bit of a strain. Keep the back as straight as possible by spreading the knees. Do this twice every morning.

THE BEHAVIORAL MIND

Behavioral mind means dealing with tasks involving the five senses as they deal with your real world. Mariner’s metaphor is ‘anything to do with driving the bus’. Simplest example for all adults: not remembering why you walked into a room. Virtually all behavioral issues are linked to a lapse in memory. Mariner cited one of his own lapses in a recent post: he starts to put his coffee in the refrigerator instead of the microwave. This lapse is caused by distraction within the brain ; consciously, we try to think of two things at once – which only the subconscious brain can do.

A common thing to strengthen your attention span is to do puzzles – any kind of puzzle. Like all the activities mentioned, do it daily. Most of these lapses can be reduced by deliberately making the brain do lateral thinking. Another challenging exercise is to prepare a meal which has unusually elaborate, multi-step recipes.

Force yourself to completely finish one task before starting another one – even tiny ones.

THE REASONING MIND

Reasoning mind is the brain processing abstract thoughts, evaluation of real world circumstances, relationships, and emotional self evaluation. Real world circumstances require staying in touch, consciously knowing the status of friends and family, staying involved with your community.

Those who like to read have an advantage. Read some nonfiction on purpose; being able to rationalize new thoughts is a brain skill. Mariner understands the pain of traveling but go somewhere new every once in a while – the brain actually likes to explore.

You can’t stop the aging process but you can help keeping it pleasant.

Ancient Mariner

 

 

 

The real world

Greetings, readers. The big story for most folks here in the real world has been the weather. This year has to be one of the more disruptive winters – heavy rain, bothersome snow and high winds along with hot temperatures in the deep south and west. Toss in a few unexpected tornadoes and destructive thunderstorms.

The planet also took several extra turns at blowing tree leaves about, causing several extra trips to keep the grounds civil looking.

Know what? It was his real world that mariner had to contend with – not the world provided by TV, computers and smartphones. It felt good to have his own real world. He acknowledges the horrid strife across the planet caused by bullet wars, greed and inadequate resources but dealing with his own winter was a hands-on experience for him living in the Midwest. He could touch this personal world; he had to involve himself physically in his world with extra chores and repairs. There was a sense of freedom going one-on-one with his own real planet.

A good effect was his community stepping up to help neighbors clearing driveways and lawns (both snow and leaves).

As smart computers continue to encroach on our personal worlds, he fears that the ‘real’ world will be only what the computers say it is. Mark Zuckerberg’s dream of everyone living on line in a physical sense is identical to mariner’s oft-quoted Matrix film.

Humans must be able to engage in their own real world. It may be highly convenient to let a little gadget clean your floors or cut your lawns but you’ve given away a part of your own real world to robots. Is that good?

Ancient Mariner

I know you . . .

Mariner’s wife has a computer with access to several sites where stored photographs are kept – thousands upon thousands of photographs. She has arranged for this collection to be her screensaver; each photograph fills the screen for about five seconds or so. Many times mariner has watched dozens of photographs flash by representing the entire life experience of his family.

One pattern has emerged: If mariner ever met them, he knows every single face in that library. With absolute certainty he recognizes every single face. What’s their name? Dunno. When did you know them? Dunno. How do they fit into family history? Dunno. But with absolute assurance, he recognizes every face.

Is this another subconscious skill possessed by Homos? Perhaps by many species! Sheep seem to know each other; it must be the face. There was an episode on TV some time ago where a grown lion recognized his befriended keeper from years ago when the lion was young. From 50 feet away ran up to keeper, stood on his hind feet and gave the keeper hugs and kisses. 50 feet away – was it a visual recognition?

One time mariner was standing in an elevator when a woman entered and immediately said “Hi” and asked him how his life was doing. He recognized her face immediately but it took a minute to remember he knew her in middle school, about 20 years ago.

Mariner suggests the reader should test themselves to validate this pattern of memory combined with ignorance.

Ancient Mariner

 

Working for a living 28 – 43

Mariner signed on with the Federal department of Medicaid. (Job 28) He was the manager of the contract support center, which provided coding support to about 12 state contracts. It occupied a five-story building in Texas. 18 months later, he was transferred to the headquarters in Washington, D.C. (Job 29). His job was to visit contract sites to evaluate operations. While in Washington, he was offered a consultant project manager position for a bank in Iowa. The bank was upgrading its computer system. It offered a pleasant salary so he took it. (Job 30)

Once connected with the computer services agent, the next twenty years constituted winning contract offers from the Agent’s clients. This job situation could be called ‘one job, many locations’. Mariner considers them individual job applications because he had to be accepted by each client. Mariner’s career track finally has a name: ‘independent consultant for managing computer conversions’.

He lived this career track for 20 years, participating in about 20 contracts – the shortest one was 2 hours, the longest was three years. (Job 31-41 jobs?) Near the end, he stepped out of the traveling consultant job and signed on with John Deere Finance (Job 42)  to manage a merger of two departments. His last job (Job 43) was a one-day job advising a small consulting firm how to shape their bid for a large tech department.

Shortly after, Mariner sold his farm to live in a quiet, rural, crime-free town. All things considered, he skate-boarded through one of the better eras in American work.

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Working for a living 19-27

At this stage mariner’s job history is in a holding pattern. He continued to get Federal Dept. of Corrections contracts; he had another half dozen (Jobs 19-25) which  encompassed beach parties in Georgia, racial discrimination against his team in Alabama and designing a jail in New Mexico. In between he took classes in computer science.

Eventually, he was hired by a large insurance firm as supervisor of a team of coders (Job 26). If mariner ever had a standard career job.this was it. How does that song go, working 9 to5 . .  until a few years later when a new CEO took over and gutted the COBOL coder teams.

It turns out there was special job fair in town. He was selected to help set up an administrative information process for Taiwan’s first home-built fighter jet (Job 27).

So, readers, Have you ever worked out-of-US before? What stresses were put on family life? Have you ever worked on the road like a long haul truck driver? What changed in your ego, being separated from the home tribe?

Ancient Mariner

Working for a living 16 -18

Mariner was a parole officer for about a year when the Department of Corrections ran an in house ad for a new position. Mariner got the job! (Job 16) The job was as the coordinator to implement new data systems that met new Federal guidelines. The job reported to the Systems Manager who reported to the Secretary for Corrections and Probation.

The popular acronym was CJIS (Criminal Justice Information System). Mariner’s job was to visit every prison, jail, police department and judgeship (who were resistant to baring their trial records) for the purpose of teaching the new data relationships, advise computer technicians and arrange a coordinated relationship with the state project. He had a team of two systems experts, a coordinator and an attorney.

This job lasted four years until a new Republican became Governor and mariner was let go.

Fortunately he had made friends with a few managers at the Federal operation. Slowly, mariner began getting contracts to teach project management to States who requested this service. (Job 17 and 18) This is the moment when mariner became an independent consultant and the job numbers start to climb rapidly.

So readers, do you remember when you felt really happy and fortunate when you were given a break in the work world? What was the name of the person who gave you the break? How did you celebrate your new break?

Ancient Mariner

 

Working for a living 9 – 15

The meter reader job(8) lasted for several years including the time mariner rolled a company car and developed a BFF who still visits. Reading meters was a lot like delivering newspapers with the added activity of engaging humans. Mariner realized that most labor jobs never have a conclusion. So, with the help of his preacher father, he set out to go to college with financial income as a lay preacher (Job 9).

He hasn’t mentioned it much but mariner was still playing semipro football. He immediately volunteered for the college team, eventually became the starting outside linebacker. Otherwise, preaching was an easy job, But the opportunity came to take a church back in his home state (Job 10).

This job was identical in practice but the income was too frugal for city living. He soon took a job working for an investment firm (Job 11). He knew going in that pencil work was not his ilk.

At the time there was a recession going on. He had difficulty finding work to match his budget. He worked as a bank teller (Job 12) while working at Pinkerton (Job 13) at night. Soon he left to become a probation officer for the city. This job (14) was very much like being a preacher but with no religious ties. Two years later the State took over the job and mariner became a Parole officer (Job 15).

This move set mariner’s jobs in a different direction for the rest of his life.

So how about you, readers. Was there a time when you jumped through jobs like a kangaroo? Can you name two people you worked with in each job? Did you join the military? What was the hardest task for you to endure in your job history?

Ancient Mariner

Working for a living 8

Well, readers, how many married readers have reached the point where the spouse says, “No, Honey, that was after we married”?

This is a life-switch time for mariner. He knows his lifestyle in art is too slow for depending on artwork. He chose to drop artwork and work for a large utility. At his local gas and electric company, he walked in open for anything. He became a meter reader (job 8).

Meter reading is one of those jobs that are good and bad at the same time. Walking and climbing broken gates was bad; weather was a nuisance. On the other hand, it was learning the body language of dogs and interpreting the tone of their bark or growl that was interesting. Many times a loose dog would come at mariner, protecting his territory. Mariner never had a problem because he would advance toward them rapidly while speaking the appropriate growl. The dog was always neutralized. One situation where this technique did not work was with trained attack dogs but these dogs were restrained by fences. Typically a resident became involved. If you learn dog attack language, never apply it to toddlers. It so scared one of his grandchildren that they went silent instead of squealing.

Being a meter reader provided a first class education on social classes. A reader has an interface with all of them. There were homes with dead dogs; Female residents in a surprising number of homes made sexual advances; many had just one chair in the living room. At the other end were mansions. The residents had servants; dogs weren’t dead.

Nevertheless, readers, in a time of life when you are still young but noticing the shadows, what new experiences did you have that changed your core attitude toward life? What was your worst accident of any kind before age 40? Turn it around. What was a really good experience away from work? What was your boss’s name two jobs ago? Exactly how much did you pay for your first automobile?

Ancient Mariner

Working for a living 5-7

By age 17, mariner had a very social life. His mainstay was league football and going to jitterbug dances. He was a serious art major in his high school, which allowed students to select majors very much like colleges do. He chose painting art.

Job 5 was as a water safety life guard at a church camp. These were fun days. It was there that mariner made fresh Blue Crab his favorite meal.

Mariner’s high school class graduated during this period. It was time for him to step into the real world of work.  He joined the local semipro football team and simultaneously was hired by a large department store to be an illustrator in the advertising department, establishing job 6. What he remembers best and most were the lunchtimes spent across the street in a bowling alley with three cronies from the department store. A game called duckpins was played ( a version of bowling called ‘two-ball, nine-no-count’); If the first two balls didn’t score 9 pins, that frame became zero.

Job 7 – Just months later an advertising firm asked mariner to come with them – for a much better salary.

Now, about you folks. New in the adult market place? What new interests entered your life? Did you discover a new, non-family or non-local set of people that you associated with? Did you get married? Where did you go on your first self paid vacation? Name your mayor when you took your first ‘adult’ job. Name the restaurant where you spent lunch.

Ancient Mariner

Working for a living 3-4

Mariner’s third job at age 16 was as a soda jerk at a small pharmacy. No one ever, ever said ‘soda clerk’ or ‘fountain clerk’ – probably accurately so. It was a pleasant job. The memories of fixing ice cream and drinks and working an adjacent cigarette/candies window exposed him to dealing mildly with many different personalities and age groups. It helped mariner emerge from a very quiet childhood.

The other thing he remembers about job 3 was that the pharmacy was on a corner on main street. It  had a large pavement area with many cement blocks about 4ftx4ft. It was every boy’s sports arena for what was known then as block ball. The game was played by using the player’s palm to hit a tennis ball aimed at his square, sending to another player’s block – just like pickleball today.

So, fellow workers, what was your earliest job where you provided a service to people you didn’t know? If applicable, did you start to smoke? What was different about your new friends? Did you have a pet? Who was the top-of-chart singer during your service job? Had you had a crush by then?

Mariner’s social life was building in those years. He quit the soda jerk job to work job 4 as a short order cook over the winter.

Ancient Mariner